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Everything Is Different…

When you get pregnant with your first baby you hear from veteran parents everywhere that having a baby changes EVERYTHING and then you have a baby and it changes…EVERYTHING. Throw an Irish Twin baby in there and it seems like saying everything has changed is an understatement. (disclaimer: this post is for anyone with kids…not just IT mommies!) It’s been 3.5 years now since my husband and I have become parents…2.5 since we have been parents of Irish Twins and we had a major realization together over Father’s Day weekend. When those precious babies entered our world and everything changed…so did we. Like real changes…the kind of changes that if left un-acknowledged could tear down the once strong foundation of our marriage. We felt like the fighting and making up happened in cycles all over the same reasons and it all finally came to a head and after HOURS of arguing and discussing we FINALLY realized the root of what had changed for us was…What Made Us Feel Loved Had Changed! Where a snuggle or a slap on the toosh while cleaning the kitchen used to make me feel loved before kids…it wasn’t the same anymore. Sitting and watching a movie and discussing it with my husband used to make him feel loved, but time and exhaustion had changed that too. The more we talked that weekend the more clear everything became. We need to rediscover what made each of us feel loved. Here are 3 things that have really helped us adjust our relationship to the beautiful changes that occurred when we added tiny humans to the mix. I hope...

I Don’t Want My Kid To Be Smart

Almost anyone who meets my girls and spends a little time with them always has something to say about Elika, my 3 year old, and how smart she is. I agree, she is a pretty smart little girl. She blows me away everyday. (sidenote: my 2 year old is smart and wonderful too, but also less interested in educational things…this story is about her sister but I am not overlooking her) Would Elika flourish in a Montessori school everyday? Maybe. Could a private school be so amazing for her educational growth? Possibly. If I had been working with her all year on sight words and phonics could she already be reading some words right now? It’s probable. But I am not interested in that right now…not putting her in school 2 days a week…not putting her in school 5 days a week…not sitting down and doing phonics… Some people may take what I just said and boil it down to: So you don’t want your kid to be smart. You don’t want to give them best chance in life. You don’t want to help them flourish to their fullest potential. My reply: EXACTLY…I Don’t WANT My Kid To Be Smart!! (imagine this said with a sloppy amount of sarcasm!) Here is a message to all the well meaning friends, loving and opinionated family members, easily swayed husbands…STOP JUDGING A BOOK BY IT’S COVER. ENOUGH. My daughter is brilliant and a learning machine. I love that about her. She is also 3 years old. So while you see a book titled: A Naturally Smart Child Needs To Learn Everything She Can Possibly Comprehend…you...

To the Soon-to-Be IT Momma

We had just gotten home from church and I had laid my almost 4 month old baby girl down for a nap when I decided to take the pregnancy test just for fun…of course I wasn’t pregnant, that would be CRAZY! The 2 pink lines on the stick threw me into an epic shock. I stumbled into the living room where my husband was and burst into tears. Before I could even tell him the unfathomable news he blurted out “You’re pregnant aren’t you? I have known for weeks!”. His response was sweet and excited, but I was overwhelmed, scared, exhausted and emotional and spent the next 7 months preparing for something that seemed impossible to prepare for. All that said, I know this is scary and overwhelming, but at 4 months post partum I can tell you with confidence that everything is going to be more than ok….it is going to be incredible in so many ways. I hope my journey and what I learn along the way will be an encouragement and help to you. I wanted to share a few things for you to keep in mind as you process this ‘unexpected awesomeness’. 1.  I had a couple of people tell me how sad they were for my first born daughter (the older of my IT girls) because she wasn’t going to get enough love and attention from us because of the new baby. That is just not true! My husband and I feel confident that Elika gets plenty of attention and so does Eva. Don’t let anyone speak that kind of worry into your mind,...

3 Words That Made Me a Happier Mommy

It didn’t take long for me to start feeling like a failure when I gained the title of mommy. I was constantly asking myself questions like: “Am I ruining my baby by letting her co-sleep?” “Am I breaking my little girl by not putting her on a schedule?” “Did I read enough books?” “Am I nursing enough?” “Oh no! I haven’t stuck to a bedtime routine…have I killed all chances of her sleeping through the night?” “Will I ever actually have time or energy to get made up for my husband?” Everyday I compared myself to other moms. Everyone looked more together, more knowledgable and more qualified to me. All this was just with one baby…fast forward 10 months when baby #2 arrives and it’s a whole new set of things that I am wondering… “Dang, i did it again…co-sleeping, am I messing up my marriage and my baby?” “Am I giving my 1yr old enough attention?” “Is my little one getting all the love and attention she needs?” “I fed Elika processed food today instead of making homemade, organic food…why am I so lazy?!” “The girls haven’t had a bath in 2 days, how awful am I?” “We all slept in everyday this week, I am a disgrace!” “The floor is dirty…the laundry is dirty.” “Now the laundry is clean and has been sitting in the basket for a week…when will I get my act together?!” Leading up to the birth of my second baby girl I had planned out how life was going to be. I was going to be a Work At Home Mom (WAHM) for...

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